Dear GG,

How do I regain my husband’s trust? we are so emotionally disconnected because of something I did. Before marriage, my husband was my best friend. He confided in me and I confided in him. What he would never tell anyone, he would always tell me. I had the passcode to his phone and there were no secrets in our marriage. One day we were in argument, nothing serious but I wanted to prove a point and I did something that I regret deeply till this day. I threw something he told me in confidence back at his face because I wanted to win the argument. The moment the words left my mouth, I regretted it immediately because hubby responded as if I had slapped him. The argument ended and I won but at what cost? Since that day I feel that hubby is keeping parts of himself from me. He doesn’t open up to me as freely as he used to. He changed the passcode to his phone and for the first time, I don’t know what it is. I have apologised and he says it’s fine but he hides himself away from me. I don’t know what to do because I feel that I have lost my husband emotionally. I feel so cold and lonely without the emotional intimacy we once shared. You always say that good men don’t trust easily but when they do they give their all and it is my responsibility as a wife to value and keep that trust. I feel like I have failed as a wife to protect hubby’s trust, now I have lost it. What do I do GG, I want my husband back.